This question was asked by a young person this weekend. It has an answer with several follow-up questions.
Q. Are angels boys or girls?
- As far as we can tell, they are neither. We never see angels described as reproductive. They are often described from a masculine perspective: Michael the warrior angel (Dan 10); Gabriel the messenger angel (Luke 1). We really don't know for sure if they are boys or girls or neither.
- Jesus shares some insight into angels and heaven when he was being questioned by those who didn't believe in the resurrection. They tried to stump him by asking him him about a woman who had married seven times (hypothetically, she became a widow six times and married seven different men). Jesus gave this answer:
Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?" Jesus replied, "You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. Matthew 22:28-30
Q. Will people be married in heaven?
- As unromantic as it sounds, no.
- According to Jesus, 'people will not marry nor be given in marriage' in heaven. But that does not mean that we will be equally close to everyone. Since we maintain our identity and person-hood, it would be impossible to be equally connected to the millions of people who will be in heaven. So you will know your family there. You will know your spouse.
- And since there is no sin and no insecurity, jealousy, anger, or bitterness-relationships will be more fulfilling and more intimate than ever.
- I tell my wife that I will love her in heaven as well (and I will!!!!).
Q. So when we go to heaven do we become angels or are we just like the angels?
- Jesus statement here is that we will be like the angels in terms of relationships. But we do not become angels.
- As amazing as they are, angels are not a higher level of being than humans. What makes us distinct is that humans are made in the image of God. Angels are not. They are servants that do God's will. (see 1 Cor. 6)
- We are also distinct in that we have been redeemed. Angels wonder at this reality, the joy of being saved, having the Spirit of God alive inside of us, being considered 'the bride of Christ.' (see 1 Peter 1:12)